Today is my five-year wedding anniversary with Greg. I cannot believe it’s already been five years, but at the same time, it feels like we’ve been together for a while. I think that’s always a good feeling!
I’m so happy I get to spend my days with this guy. I am far from a perfect wife, and there are so many things I should work on. In celebration of our five years married, I put together this little list of things I’ve learned over the last five years. I’m definitely no marriage expert or even a seasoned pro. What I do know is that marriages grow and change, and being married teaches you a lot of valuable life lessons.
5 Things I’ve Learned in 5 Years of Marriage
- I am not important anymore. Marriage is not about a man coming in, putting you on a pedestal, and doing everything to make you happy. As much as that sounds like common sense, that was a learning lesson for me. Giving up some things that I love has made my marriage better.
- Always have a sense of humor. Life is boring and dull if you don’t have fun with your spouse. Fun fact: our wedding cake topper is still in the freezer. We never ate it on our first anniversary because I ordered an anniversary cake, and it just sort of stayed in there, even with moving to a new house. It’s a running joke in our house that our marriage will last as long as that cake is in the freezer. If there’s a hurricane coming and we have to evacuate, I will likely take that dang cake with me in the event we may lose power.
- Accepting the other person’s way of doing things is better than always being mad or trying to change them. Greg and I have very different ways of doing things – from organization down to the way that we manage time. It’s very frustrating if we start expecting the other person to change the way they think and work. You just have to roll with it, as annoying as it may be some times. (Although I will never understand why it’s okay in Greg’s mind not to thoroughly wash a pan after cooking with it. Don’t worry, though, I do lots of things that drive him crazy.)
- It’s important to have your own identity and interests, as well as interests you have as a couple. It’s helped us to join a small group at church and try to hang out with friends that also have kids. It was hard for us to have couple friends early on in marriage but now we’ve got a nice, small, core group of core friends.
- Seeing your husband become a father makes you feel even more complete as a wife. He will see things during childbirth and recovery that you never knew anyone would see. He’ll still love you after all of that. He will also be there for you emotionally when your hormones go crazy, and will help you sit up in bed because you are recovering from a c-section and can’t get up on your own. Seeing Greg be a daddy to our little girl makes me feel like I did something right, as she has the most amazing man to look up to. My heart bursts thinking about him being a daddy to two girls.
Happy anniversary, Greg! It’s crazy to think how much things have changed in such a short amount of time. It’s really hard to put into words how I feel and how happy I am right now to call you my husband. So much in store for us soon. I am honored to be on this journey called life with you. I love you!