5 Things I’ve Learned in 5 Years of Marriage

Today is my five-year wedding anniversary with Greg. I cannot believe it’s already been five years, but at the same time, it feels like we’ve been together for a while. I think that’s always a good feeling!

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I’m so happy I get to spend my days with this guy. I am far from a perfect wife, and there are so many things I should work on. In celebration of our five years married, I put together this little list of things I’ve learned over the last five years. I’m definitely no marriage expert or even a seasoned pro. What I do know is that marriages grow and change, and being married teaches you a lot of valuable life lessons.

5 Things I've Learned in 5 Years of Marriage

5 Things I’ve Learned in 5 Years of Marriage

  1. I am not important anymore. Marriage is not about a man coming in, putting you on a pedestal, and doing everything to make you happy. As much as that sounds like common sense, that was a learning lesson for me. Giving up some things that I love has made my marriage better.
  2. Always have a sense of humor. Life is boring and dull if you don’t have fun with your spouse. Fun fact: our wedding cake topper is still in the freezer. We never ate it on our first anniversary because I ordered an anniversary cake, and it just sort of stayed in there, even with moving to a new house. It’s a running joke in our house that our marriage will last as long as that cake is in the freezer. If there’s a hurricane coming and we have to evacuate, I will likely take that dang cake with me in the event we may lose power.
  3. Accepting the other person’s way of doing things is better than always being mad or trying to change them. Greg and I have very different ways of doing things – from organization down to the way that we manage time. It’s very frustrating if we start expecting the other person to change the way they think and work. You just have to roll with it, as annoying as it may be some times. (Although I will never understand why it’s okay in Greg’s mind not to thoroughly wash a pan after cooking with it. Don’t worry, though, I do lots of things that drive him crazy.)
  4. It’s important to have your own identity and interests, as well as interests you have as a couple. It’s helped us to join a small group at church and try to hang out with friends that also have kids. It was hard for us to have couple friends early on in marriage but now we’ve got a nice, small, core group of core friends.
  5. Seeing your husband become a father makes you feel even more complete as a wife. He will see things during childbirth and recovery that you never knew anyone would see. He’ll still love you after all of that. He will also be there for you emotionally when your hormones go crazy, and will help you sit up in bed because you are recovering from a c-section and can’t get up on your own. Seeing Greg be a daddy to our little girl makes me feel like I did something right, as she has the most amazing man to look up to. My heart bursts thinking about him being a daddy to two girls.

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Happy anniversary, Greg! It’s crazy to think how much things have changed in such a short amount of time. It’s really hard to put into words how I feel and how happy I am right now to call you my husband. So much in store for us soon. I am honored to be on this journey called life with you. I love you!

41 Comments

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    Denise Murtha
    July 25, 2014 at 8:05 am

    Some great tips…even for those that have been married longer. Great to always be reminded. sharing on fb today.

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:28 pm

      Thank you for sharing! 🙂

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    Sara
    July 25, 2014 at 8:31 am

    Happy anniversary!! Love these tips… especially the one about respecting differences and not trying to change those things that are different! 🙂

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:29 pm

      Thank you! Glad you enjoyed!!

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    Lisette
    July 25, 2014 at 8:33 am

    This was so sweet. It made my heart melt! We haven’t had kids yet (and we celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary this past March) but I look forward to bonding over the labor, delivery and recovery of birth.

    Also, we never saved the top of our wedding cake for a year later. We took it home and ate it over the course of that week. Haha!

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:34 pm

      Aww thank you 🙂

      I think waiting a year to eat your cake is kind of ridiculous. I love the idea of doing unconventional things with it! We unwrapped it yesterday, took a look at it, and threw it back into the freezer!! HAHA!

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    Natalie H
    July 25, 2014 at 8:57 am

    Happy anniversary! Were you married at St. George? Your pictures look familiar to me 🙂

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      Meg O.
      July 25, 2014 at 10:49 am

      We sure did!!!!

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    Lauren
    July 25, 2014 at 9:03 am

    So sweet! I love that you still have your cake! We had gumpase Lost characters on our cake (four years ago) and one still lives in our fridge in a ziploc. I keep threatening to throw it out but maybe I’ll use your rationale and keep it forever!

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      Meg O.
      July 25, 2014 at 10:48 am

      YES, you must keep them! It makes for a great story 🙂

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    Jess Beer
    July 25, 2014 at 9:05 am

    So sweet. Happy Anniversary!

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      Meg O.
      July 25, 2014 at 10:49 am

      Thank you so much!!! 🙂

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    Anne
    July 25, 2014 at 10:09 am

    You both are wonderful and special. I love that your differences compliment each other. I remember when I first met Greg in his apartment in Dallas (Lewisville?). He had a religious philosophy book you gave him. When you pushed him on some of the ideas, he stated his own feelings in his very Gregly polite but firm manner. He didn’t need to agree with you, but he read the book. I decided that was that and he could marry you…though that came much later.

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      Meg O.
      July 25, 2014 at 10:35 am

      You have a great memory! Haha. He is a great dude, if I don’t say so myself. 🙂

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    Barcy
    July 25, 2014 at 10:27 am

    Happy anniversary!

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      Meg O.
      July 25, 2014 at 10:34 am

      Thank you so much!! 🙂

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    Melissa
    July 25, 2014 at 12:29 pm

    Happy Anniversary! So sweet! Ya’ll are a great pair!

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    Jill
    July 25, 2014 at 1:37 pm

    Happy anniversary!

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    Sarah E
    July 25, 2014 at 1:54 pm

    #5 – a million times yes! I didn’t think I could love my husband any more than I already did and then we had kids. I have a picture perfect memory of his face when he held each of the kids for the first time and any time I think about it, it makes me tear up.

    I also am a firm believer in the sense of humor making a marriage just work. 😉 You have to laugh about stuff!! 😀

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:42 pm

      Glad that you enjoyed the post! It’s always important to laugh!! And I’m with you, too – I get teary when I see pictures of Greg holding tiny Kennedy!

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    Sarah E
    July 25, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    and happy 5th anniversary!!

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    Julie
    July 25, 2014 at 2:41 pm

    I love this post! I am recently engaged and I love reading marriage lessons as it will only grow our marriage stronger!

    Thank you for this!

    • Reply
      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      Thank you so much!! I’m glad you enjoyed it!

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    Jennifer
    July 25, 2014 at 2:53 pm

    It’s our 5th wedding anniversary too! Was your wedding as GODAWFUL hot as ours? We got married in Virginia Beach and it was over 100 degrees. Ugh. Happy Anniversary!!!

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:45 pm

      Awww, happy anniversary to y’all!! Yes, it was VERY hot! July in Texas is brutal. Luckily we planned everything indoors, though!

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    Kristy
    July 25, 2014 at 8:51 pm

    Girl, high five to number 3 and number 5! Love your list. 🙂 Happy Anniversary!

    • Reply
      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:44 pm

      Glad you enjoyed! And thank you!! xoxo

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    Julie Durfee
    July 25, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    Happy anniversary! 🙂

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      Thank you s o much!!!

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    Allie @ Allieology
    July 26, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Happy Anniversary Meg (& Greg) !!!

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      Thank you so much, Allie!! xoxo

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    Angela Newsome
    July 26, 2014 at 11:31 pm

    Happy Anniversary- Hope you two are blessed with many more happy wonderful years

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      Meg O.
      July 26, 2014 at 11:35 pm

      Thank you so much!!! xoxo

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    Jodi D.
    July 27, 2014 at 12:27 pm

    Happy Anniversary! You sure have a lot to celebrate!! 🙂

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    Katie
    July 27, 2014 at 2:18 pm

    What a great post! I love #5– so incredibly sweet. But #3 is so very true. I just recently learned that when Donny “cleans” the toilet, he just puts the cleaner in there, lets it sit, then flushes. He doesn’t use a brush! But, I decided to just to be happy that at least some cleaner went in the bowl without me having to do it. Hahaha

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    Kristen
    July 27, 2014 at 4:31 pm

    Very sweet post, Meg. Happy 5 years of marriage! I absolutely agree 100% with everything you said, except I have yet to experience #5 (but soon!) 😉 I teared up reading #5 actually. Wishing you & Greg 50+ more years of marriage & praying that cake lasts until then! Hehe

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    Becca @ Becoming Adorrable
    July 27, 2014 at 9:38 pm

    Happy Anniversary! This is so sweet, and #1 is, I think, a lesson a lot of us need to learn. 🙂

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    Lindsay @ Trial By Sapphire
    August 12, 2014 at 2:21 pm

    I know I’m super late in reading this, but I love this! Happy belated anniversary!

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      Meg O.
      August 12, 2014 at 3:07 pm

      Thank you so much, friend! I appreciate it! 🙂

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