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Things I Should Stop Doing in 2017

I’ve been thinking a lot about self-improvement and self-reflection lately. With the new year, I’m sure I’m not the only one with these kinds of things on my brain. There are so many things to accomplish this year, am I right?

But, instead of making a list of the things that I want to do, I decided I wanted to make a list of things I wanted to stop doing.

I think so many of us, especially women, just try to do it all and then are hard on ourselves for falling short. (My life in a nutshell.) Ladies, let’s stop trying to be everything and the kitchen sink. In 2017, I am going to give myself some grace and stop doing these things.

Things I should stop doing in 2017

Things I Should Stop Doing in 2017:

Telling myself I’m too busy. That’s such a lame excuse to make. If there’s something I really want to accomplish, I need to carve out time. Even if it’s just a few minutes a day to work towards a larger goal.

Committing to too much. On the flip side, it’s hard for me to say no to a lot of things, but when I overcommit, I stress not only myself out, but my family out. The last thing I want to do is put a strain on my marriage and kids because I’m away from them for something that doesn’t really benefit me in the long run.

Apologizing all the time. The easiest thing in the world for me is to say, “Sorry.” It comes out so freely that it pretty much means nothing at this point. There’s no need to justify everything that I do.

Letting myself be a doormat. I have a lot of flaws, but one thing that I can say is that I am extremely eager to help and give to others. I give my time, knowledge, expertise, thing, etc. to anyone that asks. I then find myself in the predicament that not voice when I feel like I’m being taken advantage of. Or I’m the only one ever giving. Or I feel like nobody wants to help me because I “have it together.” I’ve got to stop being a doormat.

Getting trapped in the comparison game. This one is so tough. Social media is everyone’s highlight reel, and we always see everyone’s best foot forward. It’s so easy to fall down this trap, and wonder why I don’t have nicer things, more money, a better closet, etc. I’m putting on my blinders and moving forward with a smile on my face.

Holding onto mom guilt. Oh, the mom guilt is real. So, so real. It’s hard to shake! I’d like to think it’s a sign of us always wanting the best for our kids. But sometimes I let things from years ago bother me. “If I were more present then maybe I wouldn’t struggle with this now.” WTF is that nonsense?

Say/think that I am fat. I’m raising two daughters. It’s important to me, even if for their sake, to always portray a positive body image around them. I know I have made comments like, “Ugh, I feel huge today,” around them, thinking they don’t pay attention. The fact is, they pick up on these things, especially my five-year-old. If I stop saying it, I’m also going to stop thinking it. No, I don’t sit around and think, “Oh my gosh I’m so fat,” (because I’m not, gosh darn it!) but I get down on myself even if I gain just a little weight. No more of that crap. Just always make healthy choices and be proud of who I am.

What are you going to stop doing in 2017?

8 Comments

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    Renee
    January 23, 2017 at 7:16 am

    This is such a refreshing post! I think you touched on a lot of points that many people can relate to. We are all so hard on ourselves all of the time and this is a great reminder that we shouldn’t be

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    twelveandsix
    January 23, 2017 at 7:28 am

    YES TO ALL OF THIS. Love.

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    Bev Philipp
    January 23, 2017 at 12:44 pm

    I love your thinking in things to stop doing vs. start doing in the new year. I would say I’m with you on the mom guilt. I think mamas deserve some self care even if it means not reflecting to things we shoulda done differently. We do the. Way we can and keep marching forward!!

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    GoFashiondeals (@Gofashiondeals)
    January 23, 2017 at 7:44 pm

    Such a great post. I need to stop the comparison game too and the mom guilt. As well as being a doormat. This post really hit home.

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    Nina Fullerton
    January 23, 2017 at 10:31 pm

    Great post! Have you read ‘Present Over Perfect’ by Shauna Niequist? I’m reading it right now and it’s such a refreshing reminder, just like this post. I’d highly recommend!

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    purejoyfromme
    January 23, 2017 at 10:33 pm

    Yes yes yes right down the list! Let’s simplify our lives this year…and here’s to choosing love all around & always! ❤️

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    chelseajacobs
    January 24, 2017 at 8:54 am

    Yes to all of these, especially apologizing for everything! I do that too much!

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    Jill - Kentucky Makeup Junkie
    January 26, 2017 at 11:59 am

    Meg, I love this post! I hadn’t thought of making a lot of things “not” to do – but it feels so important! I’ve been better at trying not to commit to too much and still working on saying no more often – lol. It’s so hard when you feel like you’re going to let someone down, but it’s often the only way to stay sane and do what’s best your yourself and your family. Thanks for inspiring me to make my own list!

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